When approaching girls that men are looking to impress for the first time; what to say to girls is that prime problem that they will have to deal with first. Along with building that necessary rapport by impressing her with your charm and way with women; you also need to get her to like you with your choice of words. In order to be a success at this, you need to avoid conversations and comments that women may find insulting or - worse - revolting. Therefore, you need to have a clear idea of the right things to say to a girl.

Muster up some courage to actually be bold and direct with your ways in approaching a girl. You may not know it but women will greatly appreciate it if you immediately make clear you intentions at the beginning. The opening line “I have been watching you standing and I just had to come over and tell you that you have the most stunning legs I have seen all day. I’m Tom.” will most probably beat “Hey, how’s your day going? I’m Tom.” With such apparent display of confidence, you will spare women the effort of figuring out what you are actually after. 

It is one very common trait for men to jump from one topic to another when they are conversing with women. It might be brought about by nervousness but it should be avoided. Take an effort to actually delve deeper into a topic and then create a smooth transition from it to another topic. Start off your conversation with the standard questions like “How’s your night going?” or “How’s your coffee?” and then follow it up with general questions about her such as “Do you live somewhere around here?“ or “How did you end up here?”.

It is of the essence that you conversation has some sort of flow - a direction that will give a hint that you are actually going somewhere with it. Look at this principle in a mathematical prospective. Place an arc in your conversation and add some emotional thrust in each of its tangents. This should be a good guide to have a decent conversation with a girl. This will also come in handy to transform an otherwise boring topic into something that a girl will find insightful and interesting. Women should find you very impressive if you area able to do this.

If you are able to execute a good conversation with a woman, you should be able to get a good grasp of her personality. From here, you can very well tell if both of you is compatible to take things to the next level. Aside from finding common ground, you will also pick out aspects of her that you would want to further explore. The key here is to allow her talk about herself as much as she can. This will not be a problem since it is innate for people to enjoy talking about their selves. 

Figuring out what to say to girls in order to put a good conversation together may pose as a challenge to many. However, it is not impossible. You just have to keep in mind that you will have to shape and adjust according to the personality of a girl that you are talking with. The most important rule is to always keep your focus on her so she gets talking about herself. Most of the time, you will already figure out what to say to girls once you are already in the moment.