Approaching Women: Social Proof

July 9, 2012
Throughout my long career as a dating instructor, I've taught thousands of dudes how to approach women in every possible situation. A lot of my students have been insanely successful. I've seen shy dudes who were scared to walk up to women turn into "approach machines" who suddenly began to meet new girls every day -- and got more phone numbers than they knew what to do with!

I have actually watched extremely quiet students of mine, who were formerly scared to talk to women and clueless about how to approach women, quickly evolve into "approach fearless approach experts" who could meet new women every day (even while simply shopping at the mall!) and continually score phone numbers, dates and even one-night stands.

You know, the kind of stunner who, when she walks into a room, causes every guy in the vicinity to stop and stare.

So what's the most effective system for approaching this type of stunner? The answer, in reality, is very straightforward: you're doing to utilize the exact same approach methods that I tell my students to use with any woman, but soon after you use one of my "bridging" techniques to get her engaged in the conversation with you, you use Teases and Cold Reads to NEUTRALIZE her "hotness factor" and in fact use it to your advantage. 

So what are Cold Reads and Teases, exactly? Well, they're two very powerful manuevers that you should use when you flirt with women. In essence, these are two of my favorite conversational "weapons."

For the purposes of this article, I'll just tell you real quick that Teases are things that you say to women in a playful way, that instill a very important idea in their brains: that you are NOT a typical guy who is bowled over and flabbergasted by how gorgeous she may be. 

Whenever you tease a chick (the RIGHT way), you're treating her as you would treat an old friend -- joking around, not taking things too seriously. You act this way around old friends because you are comfortable with them. And so, when you tease a sexy stunner, you're planting the seed in her mind that you are totally relaxed with her. She doesn't "faze" you. 

This is the opposite of how most guys behave around a super hot girl. The average guy can't even carry on a fun, compelling conversation because he's so WORRIED about saying the wrong thing!

Now, as for Cold Reads, these are really awesome. Basically, you "read" her and tell her something about herself -- as if you've got psychic powers and understand her on a deeper level.

When you use an effective Cold Read, it makes you look like an extremely perceptive guy who "gets" her -- and this can create a powerful bond, very fast. And the clever thing about an effective Cold Read statement is that they apply to virtually any woman. Whether you say it to your sister, or to a super hot girl at the club, she's going to nod her head and agree with your assessment .

So, the encounter will begin with an effective opener. Then you'll use a Transition (or "Bridge") tactic to get the conversation onto the right type of theme. And then, you will discreetly use Teases and Cold Reads.

Example of a Tease: "Cindy, I gotta say, I misjudged you at first. I can sense that there is a lot more to you than meets the eye...it's too bad you aren't my type." (Then, you change the focus and leave her wondering WHY you just said that...)

COLD READ: "Y'know something Cindy, I can tell that a lot of people judge you the wrong way when they first see you. You have this tough exterior, but it's because you've been hurt before by someone that you trusted, and since then you've been kinda cautious about meeting new people. But they don't realize what a sweet, sensitive person you really are underneath."

This Cold Read works very well with really sexy females because they are often self-conscious about how people perceive them. No woman wants to be seen as a shallow, hot "bimbo." These really scorching-hot girls can be very insecure, actually -- and they are often eager to be appreciated for deeper qualities beyond their looks, such as their personality, their sense of humor, hidden talents, and so forth.)

Honestly, it isn't difficult to learn how to approach women. When you blend these tactics with other effective conversational methods, you have the formula for a highly positive interaction that will hit all of her "attraction buttons" and drive up her interest and curiosity. Scoring her phone number will be no problem at all -- and from that point on, you'll be able to guide this wherever you want it to go. Throughout my long career as a dating trainer, I have showed countless of guys how to approach women in every imaginable scenario. A lot of my students have been insanely successful. I've seen shy students who were scared to approach women turn into "approach machines" who all of a sudden began to meet new women all the time (even while walking down the street!) -- and got more phone numbers than they knew what to do with!

It's been satisfying to see extremely shy students of mine, who were formerly too nervous to talk to females and clueless about how to approach women, turn into "approach machines" who were able to meet new girls on a daily basis (even just shopping at the mall!) and frequently rack up phone numbers, dates and even one-night stands.

But a guy's confidence level can take a lethal hit -- and that old "approach anxiety" can come seeping back in -- when he is faced with the mission of approaching an exceptionally gorgeous stunner.I'm not talking about an ordinary female here; I'm talking about a stone-cold stunner. You know, the kind of female who, when she walks into a room, causes every guy in the area to stop and stare.

What's the best way to approach a girl like THAT?The answer, really, is rather easy: you're doing to make the most of the exact same approach techniques that I tell my students to use with any woman, but after you use one of my "transition" strategies to engage her in the conversation, you use Teases and Cold Reads to NEUTRALIZE her "hotness factor" and actually use it to your advantage. 

I know you're probably wondering what Teases and Cold Reads are. Well, they're two very powerful moves that you should use when you flirt with women. Really, these are a couple of my favorite conversational "weapons."

For now, the short answer is that Teases are playful things you say to females to "mess with them" a little bit, and establish that you're NOT unsettled or super-impressed by them. 

If you tease a woman the right way -- remember it's about being PLAYFUL, not insufferable -- you're framing the interaction as if you are already familar and comfortable with her, which prompts her to treat you in the same manner. You act this way around old friends because you are comfortable with them. By using Teases with a beautiful stunner, in a strategic way, you are showing that you're not fazed by her good looks and you are relating to her as a normal person. 

This is the opposite of how most dudes behave around a stunner. This guy can't even carry on a normal conversation because he's so frightened of saying the WRONG thing and screwing it up!

As for Cold Reads, these are STATEMENTS that you make to a girl about herself. It's as if you're playing "psychic" and telling her something about herself that no other guy in the room would ever guess.

When you use an effective Cold Read, it makes you look like an extremely perceptive guy who "gets" her -- and this can create a powerful bond, in a short amount of time. But the really clever thing about Cold Reads is that they apply to virtually anyone. You're telling her something about herself that SOUNDS profound, but the same statement would apply to just about anyone you used it on.

So, the interaction will begin with an effective opener. Then you'll use a Transition (or "Bridge") tactic to get the conversation onto the right type of topic. And then, you will tactfully use Teases and Cold Reads.

Example of a Tease: "Cindy, I gotta say, I misjudged you at first. I can sense that there is a lot more to you than meets the eye...it's too bad you aren't my type." (Then, you change the subject and leave her wondering WHY you just said that...)

And here's a Cold Read: "You know, Cindy, I'm sure that most people get the wrong idea about you when they first meet you. You have this tough exterior, but I know it's only because you've been hurt in the past by someone who you really trusted. Since then, you've been cautious about letting new people get close to you. But the funny thing is, they don't realize what a sensitive, sweet person you truly are."

This Cold Read works very well with really scorching-hot women because they are often self-conscious about how people perceive them. No woman wants to be seen as a shallow, hot "bimbo." These really sexy women can be very insecure, actually -- and they are often looking to be appreciated for deeper qualities beyond their looks, such as their personality, their sense of humor, things they are knowledgeable about, and so forth.)

It really isn't difficult to learn how to approach women. When you blend these techinques with other effective conversational tactics, you have the formula for a highly positive interaction that will set off all of her "attraction switches" and and make her genuinely interested and attracted in you. Getting her phone number will be guaranteed -- and from that point on, you'll be able to steer this wherever you want it to go. Throughout my long career as a dating instructor, I've taught countless of guys how to approach women in every situation you can think of. A lot of my students have been extremely successful. I've seen shy guys who were scared to walk up to girls turn into "approach machines" who all of a sudden began to meet new women all the time (even while walking down the street!) -- and got more phone numbers than they knew what to do with!

It's been enjoyable to see incredibly quiet students of mine, who were formerly scared to talk to hot chicks and clueless about how to approach women, transform into "approach machines" who could meet new girls on a daily basis (even just shopping at the mall!) and always obtain phone numbers, dates and even one-night stands.

However, a man's sense of "approach confidence" can really take a hit when he finds himself wanting to walk up and talk to an extraordinarily striking babe.I'm not talking about an everday woman here; I'm talking about a stone-cold stunner. The kind of girl who makes every dude stop and stare when she enters the room.

Well, the answer is actually quite uncomplicated: you use the same approach techinques that I suggest you use with any woman, but soon after you use one of my "bridging" strategies to get her engaged in the conversation with you, you use Teases and Cold Reads to NEUTRALIZE her "hotness factor" and actually use it to your advantage. 

I know you're probably wondering what Teases and Cold Reads are. Well, they're two very dominant techniques that you should use when you flirt with women. Fundamentally, these are a couple of my favorite conversational "weapons."

For the purposes of this article, I'll just tell you real quick that Teases are things that you say to women in a playful way, that plant a very important idea in their brains: that you are NOT a predictable dude who is bowled over and dumbfounded by how hot she is. 

Whenever you tease a stunner (the RIGHT way), you're treating her as you would treat an old buddy -- joking around, not taking things too seriously. When you're chilling with someone you've known for a while, you're naturally going to tease and joke around with that person. And so, when you tease a beautiful woman, you're planting the seed in her mind that you are totally at ease with her. Nothing about her fazes you. 

Of course, this is exactly the OPPOSITE of how the typical dude behaves when he is talking to a stunning woman. This guy can't even carry on a normal conversation because he's so afraid of saying the WRONG thing and screwing it up!

As for Cold Reads, these are STATEMENTS that you make to a woman about herself. It's as if you're playing "psychic" and telling her something about herself that no other dude in the room would ever guess.

When you use an effective Cold Read, it makes you look like an extremely perceptive guy who "gets" her -- and this can create a powerful bond, very fast. And the clever thing about an effective Cold Read statement is that they apply to virtually any woman. Whether you say it to your sister, or to a girl at the bar, she's going to nod her head and agree with your assessment .

Basically, after you make your approach and use a cool opener to start the conversation -- and there are tons of these in my seduction manual -- you'll use a Transition strategy to move things onto the right topic. Then, you can start using Teases and Cold Reads:

TEASE: "Y'know, Cindy, I think I got the wrong idea about you at first. I can tell there's more to you than meets the eye. It's just too bad you're not my type..." (then change the topic)

COLD READ: "Y'know something Cindy, I can sense that a lot of people get the wrong idea about you when they first see you. You have this tough exterior, but it's because you've been hurt before by someone that you trusted, and you're cautious sometimes about meeting new people. But they don't realize what a sweet, sensitive person you really are underneath."

This Cold Read works outstandingly well with really beautiful girls because they are often self-conscious about how people perceive them. No woman wants to be seen as a shallow, hot "bimbo." These really hot women can be very insecure, actually -- and they are often looking to be appreciated for deeper qualities beyond their looks, such as their personality, their sense of humor, hidden talents, and so on.)

Honestly, it isn't hard to learn how to approach a woman. Every time you blend these tactics with other effective conversational moves, you have the recipe for a highly positive interaction that will set off all of her "attraction switches" and drive up her interest and curiosity. Scoring her phone number will be no problem at all -- and from that point on, you'll be able to guide this wherever you want it to go. 
 

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